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A Sappy Valentine's Story…

I enjoy being a part of the blogosphere. Statistics have shown that there are well over 100 million blogs, so sometimes I just feel like a small speck amongst many; however, I enjoy the outlet of writing and the interaction it provides. Through blogging I have also met some new friends as well as reconnected with old ones; but the thing I enjoy most is telling real life stories about myself, my family (even though they might not always appreciate it), and those who enter my life each day. So in keeping with “letting you into my life” and in honor of Valentine’s Day, I am going to tell you the juicy love story of how I met my wife. Before you continue reading, you should know that this is my version although it may subject to the harsh editing of my wife. So…here it goes.

My love life for the first two years of college was described when Three Dog Night sang a song called One which at some point says, “One is the loneliest number.” Sure…I remained busy playing soccer and hanging out with friends, but I still had not found that love connection. All that changed at the beginning of my junior year when a gorgeous woman with long, straight, and flowing hair caught my eye. I have never been a very forward guy when it came to asking girls out, so I had to plot a course of action (i.e. involve others in making sure she noticed me). To make a long story short, I found a mutual friend who knew this “yet to be identified” woman and paid him lots of money to drop my name. He agreed to do so, but then I found out she was going on a “friendship date” with one of my best friends. After burying his body…just kidding…I talked to my good friend and did find out that it was just a casual date, so I begged him to drop my name. He was happy to do so because he knew I could beat him up. Eventually I discovered her name was Leah (pronounced Lee-ah, not Lee) and I got the courage to ask her out. What gave me hope is that I had seen hundreds of guys during my first two years of college who dated hot girls and they themselves were, let’s just say, ugly. This is also proof that there is a God. Since we went to a Christian college which some would describe as a military school, our first date was a speech recital. I can’t remember what the recital was about, but I just remember the feeling which came over me as I sat next to her. It’s the same feeling I have right now as I type and she is watching Criminal Minds. If she is scared tonight, she will want to hold me! Leah met every qualification I had: she was hot and she was willing to go out with me.

Of course there is a lot more to the story, but now we have been married almost twelve years (if I get that wrong, I’m dead) and have two beautiful kids. I would not trade my life for anything. I love my wife and kids and thank God for giving me so much more than I deserve.

There is one side note which does not fit in anywhere else, so I’ll mention it here. We were recently looking back at one of the first photos taken of us after we started dating and she said, “You looked like a dork back then, but I changed you into what you are today.” That picture is the one featured here.

Was I really a dork back then?

11 Years Ago

During this time of year, Leah and I seem to be invited to a lot of weddings and every year it brings back memories of our marriage day (no, I don‘t run home and watch the DVD of our wedding). I’m not saying that in a sappy sort of way, but every time I sit through a ceremony it is a reminder of the commitment we made to each other on May 31, 1997 (that is today in case you are wondering). Now, we’ve been married 11 years and have two wonderful kids, are connected with a fantastic church, and my children are a part of a great school district (not that that is all there is to life). I have the opportunity to be on staff at a church where I love going everyday and Leah works for the Apple Online Store, which has been a real blessing. There are so many other things I could list, but in reality we have so much more than we deserve. If you would have asked us over a decade ago what we would be doing, we could have never imagined what God had in store for us. That’s not to say it has always been an easy road, but God has been so faithful every time. Since it is our anniversary I must say a few things about my wife, Leah. I’ve never lived a day in her shoes but I’m certain that being married to a pastor is not always the easiest calling. There are constant demands of my time, schedule changes, emergencies from church members, phone calls at inconvenient times, and the occasional negativity which can be associated with church. There are probably some times when she feels that everyone is watching us (and they probably are), but she never complains. I’m sure she has wanted to at times, but she has always supported our calling. Not only is she a pastor’s wife, but she is also a mother. Moms never get the credit they deserve and there have been many times when I have not been understanding of the tremendous amount of work it takes to be a good mom. Leah is the best mom! Our kids love her so much and you can tell that they genuinely enjoy being with her.Why I am writing this? I believe all of us should be thankful for those who are closest to us. It is possible to take for granted the people whom you really love the most because you know they will love you anyways. Even if it is not your anniversary, take some time to express your love for the person who means the most to you.